UHHHHH!!!!
My husband is SUCH an A**!!!! He is all pissed because I told him we need to cut some spending because in the next 7 weeks we have 2 kids birthdays and Christmas. He can be such a selfish jerk!! We just put like 300 into his hunting season and he ran his credit card bill u pand I had to cover that. UHH! I wish sometimes he would do the finances, but then I wouldn’t be assured that everything was paid. I am only 22 and have 3 kids and him to take care of. He makes good money, and I stay at home and so I see where some people would say go get a job, but I have two children that I would have to pay for full time daycare, and then another one for before and after school so it wouldnt even pay me to work once I cover that and gas to and from work. He knows this, but he was raised to have anything he wanted and doesn’t like to give in on his part!! I hate this, and I wonder sometimes if I would leave his selfish ass if I would be better off, but I do love him, and he can be nice, but he has a lot of growing up to do. I know he is only 25, but HELLO we are in the real world and $18/hour only goes so far with rent, electric, phone, internet, satellite, car payment, car insurance, food, kid’s medicine,I wish he actually cared about this!!!!!!!!! Sorry I really needed to vent!
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Men!!! haha. Yeah, we have gone thru stuff like this too at my house. It helped me when I actually showed my husband where the money was going, and I had him go with me to the grocery store where he was totally surprised that we couldn’t eat for a month on $100 like he thought!
I’m so sorry! We’ve been there, done that, too. We are up to our eyeballs in debt from when hubby’s business failed a couple of years ago, but I’m stubborn and refuse to file bankruptcy. LOL We’re just doing the best we can to pay everything off. What helps us is that my hubby & I each get a cash “allowance” every payday. It’s not much (sometimes less than $50 each), but it’s what we call our FUN MONEY. I can spend mine on whatever I want to or save it, and he can do the same. This way, I can buy scrapbooking stuff or get my nails done or whatever without him complaining, and he can go out for lunch 2 or 3 times a week or buy a new gadget without me getting mad. It really helps eliminate a lot of money bickering at our house, and it helps us stick to our budget. Just a thought.
Men just don’t get it do they? I am sorry, and I hear ya about wanting to make sure things get paid. Sounds like hubby needs a wake up call. Hugs, Kama
Maybe if you showed him a list of expenses then he wouldn’t spend so much money. A thing I learned is that men think they NEED their hobbies. Women don’t have hobbies, we clean, cook and every minute of free time is spent on our families. Men think they NEED to do their hobby and don’t understand/see it as selfish. I was working my butt off and going to school and my husband went out and spend 400 on crap for his hobbies. I was pissed off! I was like if you are going to blow our money then I will stop busting my butt. He finally realized what I was talking about but it took him a while. Men feel entitled to their stuff.
I would just lay everything out in an excel document and show him how you save him money (call around for daycare prices) and maybe he’ll realize it.
Personally I will never stay at home, I like having my own money and my own life at work. I like getting respect and I feel like when I am at home the work never ends. I don’t have children but I still think I will never stay at home and will be a better person and parent because of it.
Thanks so much for the support! My husband knows the cost of daycare. The decision for me to stay home was actually made by him because he’s jealous and my 2 little kids need daily breathing treatments, and ofcourse the expense of working. I think he knows in his head that we need to live with a budget if we EVER want to by a home, but he is just so used to getting what he wants. I’m laying the law down this weekend. NO more spending until January. I hope it works!
Sometimes that is what you need to do is just lay down the law! Men, just don’t get it unless they see it with their own eyes!
Have a good one!
Big HUGS!
Oh, I hope things are better now. That kind of stress is the last thing you need, but I hope you were able to talk with him about your concerns and that the two of you came to an understanding.
I know how you feel about the tight finances, I recently left my $32/hr job to stay home and get things in order - and it definitely paid its toll. Ugh, responsibilities - blah. Especially for you only being 22, you are already taking on so much! Well, you aren’t alone hun.