Having a hard time coping with losing my Granny
Hey guys, over the last few years I have lost a lot of people close to me. I have lost a great friend, Chris, a close cousin, Crystal, a co-worker, Jeremy, a great-aunt, Mary, and on August 26,2008 I lost the one that ripped my heart right out, my Grandmother, Anna. I added their names in there to honor them. I have times when I’m okay, but lately, I have been getting really down. You see she lived in SC, and I live here in VA and we didn’t get to spend holidays together until last year when she made sure she was up here. I guess now that I am beginning to think of who all to buy gifts for and I realize that she isn’t here any longer, and that I can’t just call her up to hear her sweet voice, and her say how much she loves me, it’s breaking me in every way, mentally, physically, spiritually. It seems like all of my other family has just went back to life as usual, but I can’t. I am busting my butt to get healthy, which her death inspired me to do, but I am having a really hard time with this. I tried talking to my husband, but he doesn’t understand. He says it’s part of life and you have to move on, but I just can’t. I miss her so bad! My heart aches and I just don’t know what to do. I go outsde and walk a lot of the time to either try to get the pain to ease up, or to vent some because I get mad that she’s gone. I’m sorry to be whining to you guys, but I just don’t know what else to do. I have experienced the pain of losing someone, but it’s never been like this.
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Sorry about your grandma. I like yourself have lost too many friends and a lot of family and it does take a toll. There are some groups that help you deal with the loss of a family member and connect you with people that are dealing with the same emotions there is probably at least one in your community so ask around. Hope you feel better soon. Have a good day.
Everyone deals with grief in different ways, and Magain gives good advice.
I try and remember those I have lost, not from the perspective of the gap their passing has left in my life, but the gift they gave me by being in my life. All the fun times, the family times, the funny times, the frustrating times, all the times that make me remember them with a smile.
Your granny was obviously a very special woman. Remember that about her. Remember the good times.
As hard as it is to believe right now, time is a great healer.
Sorry to hear about your losts Danielle. I agree though that time will heal you and your lost feelings. There are many stages of grief and unfortunately we have to go through them all. Just try to remember the good times and take the needed time to heal. Hang in there girl….
First sorry about your loss. Just keep your memories close in your heart!
Big HUGS!
Thank you all! I am doing my best, and now me and my mother aren’t getting along either, and I don’t want to take her for granted because you never know when someone will be gone, but she’s going back to an alcoholic, and putting my 9 year old brother in a bad situation. I am worried, but all she cares about is that she loves the loser. I don’t really know what to do about all of these emotions.
Ohh Danielle I’m so sorry to hear you lost your grandmother. I lost my grandfather almost 9 years ago and somedays it still takes my breath away to think of him. I think everything you are feeling is normal and you should express yourself anyway you need too so you can work through the grief. Maybe talking to a counselor about all that you are feeling and about all that is going on with your mother will help you find a way to cope.